Complex situations can occur anywhere, at any time : making a significant mistake at work, or wandering astray in a country abroad, the most important thing to learn is how to manage to get out of such a situation. For example, if you are doing your internship in New Romney, you may take the wrong bus, and arrive in another town. Here are five tips to keeping your self-control when things go wrong.
Keep your head on straight
It does not matter how bad the situation is, solutions can always be found if only you stay calm. Unexpected stress, even if sometimes a normal and common feeling, confuses your mind and your actions. Take a breath, and convince yourself that everything will be all right.
To handle stress, you have to believe in your own ability. Troubles are likely to arise at any moment – life is not a bed of roses – so always be aware of this, allowing yourself to quickly find a solution to any problems that do pop up. A lack of self-confidence can be self-destructive, and so can aggravate an already bad situation. Try to reflect quickly, but also smartly on the solutions you can employ.
Learn to ask for help
For example, you realise after a long time has already passed that you are on the wrong bus for going to the office. What are the possible solutions ?
1- Tell the driver where you want to go, and explain your mistake to him.
2- Ask a benevolent passenger for assistance and advice, and get off the bus at the next bus stop.
3- Call your supervisor in the office who will be able to help you in the best way possible.
Asking for help is not a weakness, on the contrary it is proof of your capability to recognise your own limits. And do not forget to stay cool during your interactions with people.
Learn from your mistakes
Blaming yourself is useless. Just try to convince yourself to be more concentrated the next time and try to avoid other errors. As everyone knows, life is full of risks and uncertainties, which make us make wrong choices sometimes. Stepping back from these wrong choices or mistakes helps you to grow and mature. When you stay focused on the same trouble, you block your potential for growth. Turning into your own tormentor is the wrong attitude to have.
Is it really a complex situation?
We must try to put things into perspective, and stop thinking that every situation is complex, abnormal, or tricky. It is just a new event within your life, and you will treat this one like you used to treat the others. Every practical problem has solutions; or rather there are no problems, just solutions. The only issue is how you choose to get out of inappropriate situations, and not the fact that you have been in the unwelcome situation in the first place. The best way to do this is to look to the future, and take advantage of a future wellness; tell yourself that the present situation is only temporary and that things will return to their equilibrium soon.
In the development and natural selection of different species, those that adapted best to deal with stress have survived and evolved. This is the best reason not to let yourself collapse under the weight of stress induced by a complex situation, and to try to surpass this feeling. Stay cool !